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5 Reasons Dating is Pissing Me Off

I’d like to start off by saying that I’m turning 26 this year, which is down the street from 30 and around the corner from 40, therefore, nothing about this post is going to be polite or politically correct. You may ask, what gives me that right, well, I’m not sure, but there’s something about the age of 26 that screams “grow some balls.” To get back to the point, there’s something about my love life that is lacking “balls”, no pun intended…well,  maybe. For 10 years, I’ve had maybe 5 boyfriends, and if you add them all together, I’ve had a boyfriend for 1 year and 3 weeks. Needless to say, the rest of those years were spent dating to no avail. I don’t feel sad and for some strange reason, I don’t feel hopeless, but I do feel angry. If dating had a face, I’d punch it. After going on so many first dates, deciphering so many “ : )” text messages, and having so many last phone calls, I am romantically frustrated. My love life is starting to resemble an office with all of my suitors holding out their time cards to punch in or out. While, yes, almost everything in my love life sucks, let me share with you the top reasons I may be handing in MY “dating card” for good.

Reason One

Men are liars. At one point, I used to see the potential in every man, but now all I see is the potential that they are housing a wife and kids somewhere. In a room with 10 eligible bachelors, I guarantee that the 1 jerk with the girlfriend will come up to me and introduce himself. Are all men liars? Yes! He will lie about his past, his future, and his present just so he can conquer you, even though he may already have prey waiting in the bed for him at home. I’m not sure if its my age bracket, but the dating field right now is filled with the scummy, the grimy, and the already spoken for.

Reason Two

Men are cheap. Granted, I’m not sure if this is just a Black girl problem, but I will speak on it anyway. If a man asks you out on a date, who pays? Well if he wants to still be considered a man after the date, I would suggest he pull his wallet out of his pocket. However, in this day in time, guys ( I won’t use the word “man”) want to receive “goods” for little to no cost. In fact, I would attribute the concept of “chilling” (where a man will ask you to hang out at his house and maybe watch a movie) to the cheapness and laziness of today’s male. They want to get close to you with out the cost of dating you. In some of the situations I’ve been in, when they actually do pay for your dinner or movie they feel as if they bought a ticket to “Destination: In between your legs.”

Reason Three

Men don’t use their “Anytime Minutes”, anymore. Stop texting me, and call me, damn it. If I tell a guy to call me later, and he decides to text me, that is an automatic FAIL in my grade book. I will revoke their privileges to text me or contact me, and move on. It may be a bit rigid, but I’m just so annoyed. At this age (yes, I‘m only two seconds off the cane, now),texting is only contributing to possible arthritis and a strain on my eye sight. Any man who insists on only texting you, isn’t trying to get to know you. In fact, Reason One and Reason Three go hand in hand. Men lie even better in texts.

Reason Four

Dating is sexually frustrating. Let’s be honest. Although, we are out here searching for the man of our dreams, we are also dying to find out how he is in BED.  As women, we go on date after date, barricading our legs closed and twiddling our  fingers, in the hopes that one of our suitors will behave long enough for us to misbehave together (while being blissfully in love, of course, or something alike.) However, after a few dates and a few no good men, you end up on the prowl again, disappointed and horny. With every new guy I meet, I’m thinking “how much longer is it going to be before I have sex with him”, and when that doesn’t happen (because he will ultimately amount to nothing), the saga then continues.

Reason Five

Well, I just hate dating. When your single and not looking, you have peace of mind and you convince yourself that you are just an independent woman who doesn’t need a man. On the flip side, when you are in a relationship, you have the comfort of always having that person to talk to, go out with, and someone with whom you can share your life. However, dating is an unstable lifestyle. It is the constant reminder that you don’t have anyone and you can’t maintain relationships. Sure, its fun sometimes and makes you feel young and sexy, but after you’ve dated all of the losers that I have, dating  becomes a burden. As a child, I was convinced that I’d be married with three kids approaching the age of 30, however, instead of sipping tea with my mother-in-law, I’m considering sitting with a therapist so I can ask her “Is it me?”

So ladies, I know I’m not the only one pissed off out here  in the dating world. Tell me some of your gripes and annoyances with dating in your twenties and thirties.

5 thoughts on “5 Reasons Dating is Pissing Me Off”

  1. Damn! lmao! that was just damn hilarious and sad…. I don’t know why it has to be this way. Like a little self respect and respect for others goes a long way. Be upfront men, make compromises… what I mean by that is let women know what you want. If that’s sex and they aren’t into it move on. There certainly are women that just want sex too. But no men are sex-litists and ego whores when it suits them. They wanna date your respectable ass so they can have sex with you and hope bc you’re classy you don’t have that much milage. They need to just go to girls that want that and when they want a relationship or a date talk to a girl that wants that too. Women need not date men they don’t really like either. just like the men want sex out of that ordeal al u want is entertainment on someone else’s dime. Not fair either ladies. No one men or women should date people they aren’t really interested in. It’s dishonest. Respect people, people.

  2. This article is hysterical, insightful, and painful reminder of the certain challenges we meet as women who long for meaningful and sincere companionships/relationships. I definitely feel like today’s man use the whole independent woman bravado as ammo towards women. It’s a easy excuse to be an inadequate suitor.

  3. I just wanted to say I absolutely adore your blog and I was cracking up going mmmhmm most of it. I started a dating blog about my dating experience. If you would like to share any, please feel free. I have to get better at more frequent updating of the blog.

  4. I REALLY HOPE YOU KEEP THEM COMING SIS, I NEED YOU(: THE LET THE MAN BE A MAN AND KEEP MY MOUTH SHUT IMFO WAS PRICLESS CAUSE I NEVER GIVE THE MAN A CHANCE TO DEVELOPE A THOUGHT, I’M ALWAYS SAYING, I GOT IT, I GOT IT , I GOT IT AND THEY GET USED TO THAT, THEN WHEN I WANT HIM TO HAVE IT, HE IS THINKING, O HELL NO YOU GOT IT,,,ENOUGH IS ENOUGH, THIS WHOLE FINDING LOVE MESS IS CRAZY!!!!THX

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